Now Or Later

       There is a raging debate going on in my mind. I am not a fan of cheating but realistically it happens for some reason just like most people indeed make mistakes. My question is not whether you would prefer somebody to cheat on you or not because ofcourse you would like for it never to happen. My question is simply: Now Or Later? Three days from now or three years from now? What would hurt more? Would it hurt that you can't trust your partner three months into your relationship or the fact that your lover and best friend would dare go behind your back years months into the relationship after everything you had been through together?
       I've asked some of my peers about the situation and some have told me that after their companion would have cheated within in the first three months of the relationship, the whole thing would have been null and void because the trust that a relationship is supposed to be built on is done and over with. For most people after the trust is gone there is no turning back, there is no reconcile. I want to know why, is it because that while a person is getting accustomed to a new found relationship and has yet to get used to their new found boundaries or maybe they weren't ready for a relationship, that could be the case also. There is no excuse for cheating although there could always be a reason. Most individuals are so misunderstood but results are results no matter how you got them. If you cheated you cheated, no matter what the reason is.
      Now if you switch the situation and make it three years, then it comes down to the fact that you are hurt. Deeply hurt. "Why would you cheat on me after all this time?" I still feel like there could be a reason for it to happen, whether it be spiritual, emotional, physical or whatever the case may be. However, there's always the person who cheats just to cheat so you cannot choose to make excuses for everyone. There's always the fact that people do not wanna throw away all their precious time that cannot get back for love. "Is it worth it? That decision, Because hearts break and I ain't tryna be in that collision" Is it worth going back to something that may hurt you again after soo much time and effort? Although if you have a certain type of relationship with a person and you are willing to make mends with one inorder to preserve the future which may be brighter than the present. Some cannot cope with the fact that you have to rebuild the foundation of that relationship which is built on loyalty, trust and support.
       Decisions..... Decisions......hopefully most of us won't have to make them....